CHILDREN’S PERSONAL SAFETY
Tips to help children learn skills for safety with strangers
and with people they know
Children’s personal safety skills, when supported, can help them
stay safe with most people most of the time. YOU CAN TEACH
CHILDREN TO BE SAFE WITHOUT SCARING THEM – YOU JUST HAVE TO KNOW
HOW.
Young people are at risk of assault, abduction, and abuse even in
caring families, schools, and communities. Prevention is the key to
protecting children’s personal safety. The good news is that there
are simple and effective ways of teaching children how to protect
themselves that will work most of the time.
Parents, teachers, and other caregivers need to know that their
children are more likely to be harmed by someone they know than by a
stranger. Children need to have clear safety rules both for strangers
when they are out on their own and for setting boundaries with people
they know.
Anyone can be a child molester—a neighbor, a relative, a family
friend, a youth group leader, a teacher, even another child. The best
way to protect your children’s personal safety is to make the time
to ask them often, "Is there anything you’ve been wondering or
worrying about that you haven’t told me?" and to listen to
their answers with patience and respect.
Children need to understand that there are different safety rules
when they are not in the care of an adult and they are on their own.
Children who are only a short distance away from an adult in charge
even for a few minutes are on their own. They don’t need to worry.
They just need to know what to do.
Just telling children about safety or just showing children what to
do is not enough. When we just talk to children about danger, their
raised awareness can actually raise their level of anxiety. Young
people learn best by actively participating. Practicing children’s
personal safety skills increases their confidence and competence. It
is important to do this in a way that is not scary, but is fun. Your
child can learn with you, and in programs such as KIDPOWER.
CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THESE RULES ABOUT SAFETY WHEN THEY ARE OUT
ON THEIR OWN:
Most people are good. This means most strangers are good.
A stranger is just someone I don’t know and can look like
anybody.
The rules are different when I am with an adult who is taking care
of me and when I am on my own. When I are on my own, my job is to
check first with the adult in charge before I let a stranger get close
to me, talk to me, or give me anything.
If I am old enough to be out on my own without an adult to ask, it
is safer to be where there are other people close by to get help if I
need it.
I do not give personal information to a stranger or to someone who
makes me feel uncomfortable.
It is OK to get help from strangers if an emergency is happening to
me, and there is no one close by that I know.
My job is to check first with the adult in charge before I go
anywhere with anyone (a stranger or someone I know). I will tell the
adult in charge where I am going, who will be with me, and what I will
be doing.
I will have a safety plan for how to get help anywhere I go.
I will know what my family's safety rules are for children
answering the door, being on the phone, and being on the internet.
To be able to follow these rules, children need to practice the
following skills:
• How to stand and walk with awareness and confidence.
• How to keep a safe distance from someone approaching
them.
• How to walk away from a stranger without waiting
even if that person is being very nice.
• How to check first even when someone says not to.
• How to get help from a busy or insensitive adult if they
are lost or scared.
• How to make noise, run, and get to safety in case of
an emergency.
• What to say and do if a stranger approaches them at
home.
CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THESE RULES ABOUT SAFETY WITH PEOPLE THEY
KNOW:
I belong to myself--my body, my time, my spirit--ALL of me. Touch
for play, teasing, or affection has to be both people's choice and it
has to be safe.
Except for health, no one should touch me in my private areas (the
parts of the body covered by a bathing suit).
No one should ask me to touch them in their private areas.
Touch or other behavior for health or safety is not always a
choice, but also should never, EVER, have to be a secret.
I do not have to let what other people say control how I feel.
Anything that bothers me should not have to be a secret.
If I have a problem, I need to tell an adult I trust and keep on
telling until I get help.
It is NEVER too late to get help.
To be able to follow these rules, children need to practice:
• Saying "No" to unwanted or inappropriate
behavior using polite clear words, eye contact, and assertive body
language.
• Persisting even when someone uses bribes, hurt feelings,
or power to try to pressure them into doing something that makes them
feel uncomfortable.
• Protecting themselves from hurtful words.
• Verbal choices for getting out of potentially dangerous
situations.
• Getting the attention of busy adults and telling the
details about situations that make them confused or uncomfortable.
These are just a few of the children’s personal safety
skills that KIDPOWER has to offer.
Children’s personal safety skills can grow quickly and help them
stay safe most of the time with strangers and with people they know,
especially if the adults in their lives help them learn and practice
those skills. For more information, call us at 1-800-467-6997.
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